Tag Archives: Decision-making

When the Right to Decide is in Your Hands

Call this, a LOSE-LOSE, into a LOSE-WIN, if you will!!!

When the right to decide is in your hands, you WILL lose, either way, because if you decide, to let that cheating bastard BACK into your lives, then, you’ll always BE doubting yourselves, and wondering, every time when he’s not around you, if he’s humping some OTHER whores or not, and, if you decide NOT to let that loser back in, then, you’d still have to GRIEVE, really hard, for the loss of what you’d placed into that relationship…

When the right to decide is in your hands, how is this even possible, we were, a couple, weren’t we?  And, as a couple, we normally decide on things together, and we MUST reach that unanimous vote on things like a jury?  And yet, how come, I’m the one, left with the difficulties of deciding how it’ll end?  When the right to decide is in your hands, BE glad, that you can, have a say, in what happens, because, would you RATHER that the other person make that first AND last move?  Or, would you rather, be the one, pulling the plug?

When the right to decide is in your hands, just take it, and say, “Thank you”, and, don’t QUESTION the one, who’d left the right to decide in your hands, because they can’t decide on their own, or that they just, don’t want to decide, so, they’re giving you the “right of way”, and, having the right to decide, IS equivalent to having the PRIMARY control (yeah, the relationship had always BEEN about CONTROL there, had you not realized it, ‘til now???), so, just be glad, that at least, you’re NOT leaving the decision to stay or leave up to the other individual…

When the right to decide is in your hands, you have the homing advantage, of affecting how something will turn out, and, what wonderful thing that is!  So, BE glad, that you still have the right to make the decisions regarding whatever it is that is affecting your lives.

Leave a comment

Filed under Cause & Effect, Cost of Living, Expectations, Life, Maturation, Observations, Perspectives, Properties of Life, Values

The Choice Between “Bread” & Love

As you can already guess, this is still, a story on marriage, translated…

My coworker is a admired-by-everybody beauty, as she part-timed through her schooling career, she’d met her boyfriend, they’d dated for ten years, and, right when they were discussing the matter of marriage, she’d found that his family has a serious debt problem, and even her boyfriend’s mother was taking out a loan from her, so, do they keep going in love?  Or, do they split up?

A lot of friends consoled her, to think it over again, after all, “bread”, is still very important, but, after careful contemplation on the matter, it was hard, for her to bid farewell to the love she’d felt for this long a time, she’d decided to marry him in the end.

After the marriage, they lived with his mother, and, his salaries are used to pay up the family debts, and hers, went into the rent, the utilities, along with their regular living expenses.  In order to make more money, she could only put in her overtimes at the office, she’d worked very hard, and still, without a word of complaint.  They would often fight over the monetary matters, sometimes, when the husband ran out of money, he would ask her to provide for him.

After marriage, she’d felt, that her husband turned so cold, it’d made her heart cold too.  And she now realized, that she’s now, in charge of keeping her husband’s household up and running, and the enormous economic stresses this placed on her, it became such a burden, making her suffocate.  She’d also come to her senses that love and marriage, is NOT like the fairytales, where the prince and the princess will live happily ever after, instead, it’s the beginnings of the trials in their lives.

Seeing how thin she’s slowly getting by the day, and how tired she’d become, I couldn’t help but sigh: love is not a true or false question, without right OR wrong, just the choices; and still, which one is more important, love or “bread”?

From a sound mind’s angle, of COURSE, the BREAD is more important than the love, after all, IF you can’t even feed yourselves, HOW the HELL would you have the spare money, the spare MIND, to even THINK about love, and plus, love is that THIRD level of Hierarchy of Needs?  And this woman simply made the WRONG decisions in life, and now, there’s NO going back to before WHEN she made the errors of her life, so she could have an alternative ending to her “fairytales”…

Leave a comment

Filed under Cause & Effect, Cost of Living, Divorces, Marriages, Obstacles in a Relationship, Perspectives, Properties of Life

Do I, or Don’t I

Hmmmmmmmm, I dunno, it’s a “toss up” here…

So, do I, or don’t I, love you, I mean?  My heart’s telling me “HELL NO!”, but, my body’s screaming: HUMP ME HONEY!!!  And, you know how we have those primitive tendencies, so, guess whose “advice” I took?

Do I, have sex with you, so you’ll hang around a bit longer?  Or, do I withhold my body from you, to make myself seem more precious, but, that has a tendency of backfiring, I’d seen it too all around me, so, I’m swayed between the two right now.

Do I love you, or don’t I?  It’s quite simple, but, when your head’s at war with your heart, then, a TRUCE won’t be agreed upon so easily I’m afraid.  Do I love you, well, let’s see, what IS there to love about you?  The way you made me feel, physically, emotionally, psychologically, sexually, all of that being considered, it’s still way too short-lived, I need something with a LONGER lasting effect, and so, that’s a NO.

But, you’re the one who made me feel so safe (something I’d never had before!!!), and so, I’m lingered between leaving and staying again.

Do I, or don’t I?  Why don’t you just list a “Pros & Cons” then, after you listed all of it out, throw it out, and GO with your instinct, that way, at least, you’d thought things do, you’re NOT acting on a HUNCH, and, you’d have less regrets, IF you do eventually start regretting…

Leave a comment

Filed under Miscelaneous