Is it possible, to connect now, that you’d lost that connection from years before??? I dunno, a tale on Parent-Child interaction, translated…
My daughter who’s going through puberty, had been hardheaded and aloof, it’d made me feel really awful.
She’d complained of how much I nagged her, I’d said that she should show some respect to me, and we’d had nothing to say to one another. And so, starting in her teens, she’d chosen to head to Australia to study. Seeing how she’d gone alone toward the departure exit at the airport, I’d not felt unwilling, but I was worried, that she might be okay. With the advancement in communication technologies, I’d used the web to reconnect with her, and slowly, our connection got linked together once again. The loneliness in a foreign world, the difficulties she faces away from home, the loss of not having family around her, it’d made my daughter realize that she’d had it good at home, normally, she wouldn’t let her weakness show, but through LINE, she’d slowly showed her softer side to me. Toward the high tuitions, she’d LINED me “I’d worked hard to earn the scholarships, and if I find work, then, I will have that covered!”, and on my cell phone, the message of “900 grams of tofu is cheaper, I can cook it three times, it’s quite easy”, I’d understood that my daughter knew how to make her life meet, and no longer was she spending every last cent she’d made now.
And, toward how I’d always said I wanted to lose weight but never really quite managed, she’d consoled, “You just couldn’t control your appetite, come on! Work out more, eat less! Actually, if you had three square meals a day, you wouldn’t gain weight, because if you ate when you got hungry, your body will totally absorb everything.”, and our connection, in the multitude of messages to and from, became this web of love now.
Turns out, spreading one’s wings to fly is the instincts of children growing up, if the parents held on too tightly, it would destroy the children’s abilities to grow up; turns out, that the distance is not equivalent to aloofness, it could be a sort of an intimate connection. The advancements in communication technologies had allowed me to see how much my daughter’s grown up in a distant land, and it’d put the love back for us.
And so, the child must strike out on her/his own, to realize, how much the parents really do care for and loved her/him, because when you’re living at home, you take everything as matter of fact, and, once you’d gotten out on your own, you’d have to take care of everything yourselves, and then, you’d started to appreciate what your parents did for you.