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Cultural Blindness, False Equality, Are Everywhere…

On the instructions of biracial children born to foreign hired helpers who married people here, on the Front Page Sections, translated…

The First Step to Teaching, Face the Differences

How the teachers should do it: 1. Talk about the Prejudices with Children in Depth, 2. Get Out of One’s Own Comfort Zones, 3. Pay More Attention to Multiple Talents

The professor of the Taiwan Teacher University of the Department of Education, Liu said, that if there are children from foreign hired help in the class, the instructors must see the difference, and give them “Active Differential Treatments”; intentionally dodging the topics, to NOT touch up on the issue of race, is the actions of a classic “Culturally Blind Person”, and yet, “treating all children equally”, and making them feel like they’re equals, is JUST as dangerous.  But she’d sighed, ‘these culturally blinded instructors” are all over in Taiwan.

She’d made an example, the foreigners, those with a lighter shade of skin are “foreigner”, those with a darker are considered “laborers”, and the everyday language that hinted the discriminations had subconsciously gotten passed down to the next generations.  The classrooms can NO longer stay at “Thai food is delicious, Vietnamese traditional outfits are beautiful”, this sort of appearances, they should get more in depth, after introducing the kids to the varied cultures, and start an in-depth discussion on “why is there prejudice?  Where it came from, along with the effects of discrimination on our lives.”

Facing this sharp conflict with honesty, is the first step to helping form a classroom of empathy.

The cultures of the foreign hired help are ignored by how there are only articles introducing the cultures of Asians, but it’d lacked the Vietnamese, the Thai, Indonesian, along with other southeastern countries in Asia, the editors of textbooks are often standing on the side of the “dominant culture”, and not mentioning the minorities, or, added documents regarding as attachments, and used for the purpose of comparisons.

For instance on the discussion of architecture, the textbooks had the two photographs of the 101, and the caves of an offshore island, and the kids are bound to believe that “tall buildings are signs of civilization and caves are not”, and develop an off value.  Liu said, that the methods of teaching should be “Replying to the Cultures”, in the texts, they must teach them, using their mothers’ methods, so the kids can come to know that mom and dad are from different cultures, but their cultures are equally important.”

And, the differences in the countries can cause learning roadblocks, the instructors should step outside the box, to understand the cultures of the children from these biracial families, and to offer remedial help to them.

And so, this, is one person’s take on how we can slowly get everybody onto the same page, and, she is right, but, there’s a mainstream culture, just as when we first arrived in the States, they didn’t teach us using our native language, Chinese, instead, we MUST learn English, and, it’s kinda like the same deal with these children who were born to foreign mothers.

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Hold More Conversations, and Don’t Interrogate, You Can Easily Get into the Hearts of Your Own Offspring Too

Tips on parenting, given by the “experts” here, translated…

“What’s wrong when my kid falls completely silent?”, the kids who’d normally told their parents everything now, all of a sudden, started locking up, this, would naturally make the parents nervous.  The expert in education, Ju-Hsien Peng said, that maybe the child is entering puberty, gotten her/his pride damaged when s/he was reprimanded at school by the teachers, or maybe, s/he had been bullied, and that, was why s/he is upset, that, is why they do NOT want to talk to the parents.

Peng said, that the parents would naturally worry, and wanted to “grill” it out of the child what had happened, but the more you’d hurried them to tell, the more the kids are unwilling to disclose to you what had happened.  She’d suggested that the parents first, observe the child, and find the right time, and then, talk to her/him.

Peng used her own kids as examples, when her eldest was in the third grade, he’d gotten a bad grade and was yelled at by the teacher, being very pound, he felt too embarrassed, didn’t want to talk to his family about it, the moment he arrived home, he’d locked himself inside his bedroom.

Before the Emotions Were Sorted Out, the More You’d Grilled Them, the More They Wouldn’t Want to Talk to You

Peng had waited until her son came out of his own room, and found some nitty-gritty things to talk to him about, asked him, “How’s the snack at school today?”, “Do you want to play with your younger brother?”, and joked with her son, then slowly, gotten to him, “You don’t seem to happy today, do you want to tell mom about it?”, and DO give your child a hug, to let her/him open her/his heart up, and willing to talk to you.

Peng said, that sometimes, because the child wasn’t prepared, and the more the parents grilled, the less likely s/he’d wanted to talk, at this time, don’t press her/him to, give the child more time to adapt.  Peng suggested, that the child would be most relaxed before bedtime, at this time, the parents can accompany the child, even turn off the lights, to allow the child to feel more courageous, and willing to “tell what’s in her/his heart.” Peng said, by fourth grade, the child is slowly entering puberty, and, at this stage, the children became mostly self-aware, and would turn the attachment they have toward the parents to their peers, and, they’d only shared their minds with their friends.  At which time, the parents need not be too anxious, you can use ways such as accompaniment, observations, to continue to build on the common topics you may have.  For instance, her son, since he was younger, loved the movies, she’d started with sharing how she felt after she saw a certain movie, to connect with her son.

When the Parents are Too Strict, The Tension in the Parent-Child Interactions Rise Even Higher

The Bei-Xin Elementary School instructor, Lee said, a LOT of parents would only care about the grades, and would even compare the grades of their own children with that of the relatives’ children, and it would damage the prides of the children, and, after awhile, the children would STOP wanting to share with the parents; she’d had parents who are too strict in their disciplines that when the child made a tiny error, they’d start scolding, or punishing, and so, when the child sees the parents, s/he’d fallen silent immediately.

Lee said, that the tension between the parents and children is usually built up, she’d suggested that the parents NOT talk about what’s annoying to the children, you can talk about life, and interesting things that happened at school, or even, go talk to the school teachers, and ask the teachers to talk to the children, to find out where the problem lies.

And so, we don’t want to talk to you, because we already K-N-O-W where THAT’s gonna lead, because as parents, you’d have the tendency to start GRILLING us about what we’d done wrong, instead of focusing on what we did right, and so, over time, which kid would want to talk to her/his parents, when s/he already knew that the moment s/he opens up about something, the adults are going to SHOOT her/him down.  And this communication problem still lies with the adults.

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A Tiger Father Became a Gentle Father, the Special Ways of Educating Children

The affects of one’s own family of origin, translated…

I was originally a “tiger” father, because of my own upbringing, as I’d become a father, I’d held this strong sense of fear and worries, as I “looked after” my eldest son, and, I watched him very closely, to make sure that he didn’t stray, NOT even by an inch, and I’d required that he’d made good grades, otherwise, I will discipline him, hard.

My motto in life was, “People who succeeded find ways, people who failed find excuses”, and so, my son and I, we never have anything in common, and, our relationship can be categorized by “aloofness” and “distant”.

On my eldest son’s last year in high school, one day, I’d heard him said, “I still scored last on this exam”, I said, out of desperation, “At least you can’t get any worse!”, and this time, I didn’t start yelling at him for not doing well like I usually do, because I’d become so totally disappointed in him that I didn’t know HOW to start grilling him about his academics.

But, this only time that I didn’t yell at him, it was actually quite meaningful to him, and dad, is NO longer that scary anymore.

One evening, as he saw me, he’d told me with glee, that his grades are getting better, and just started talking to me nonstop.  I will NEVER forget that moment of wonderful, the very first time I’d gotten a taste of how it is, for us to not feel so distant.

I started learning to listen, to NOT judge, just showed my cares and concerns toward my son.  And, my cares and concerns are not only about his performance in school, I’d gotten involved in his favorite activity, baseball, and, the stars in the skies, along with how he’s doing, and what he’s thinking of.

After his strict father became his best friend, my son, because he no longer needed to walk on eggshells, and must read my face all the time, he started becoming himself like he was supposed to.

And now, we’re closer than ever, he is already married and has a job, would help me with my worries now, and be patience as I talked about the “glory days”.

I think, if I were the “tiger dad” I was back then, I probably wouldn’t have a son who’s so close to my heart now!

And so, in this one, you CAN see, how the change still came from the ADULT first, because the parents’ attitudes determine how well the child will fare in life, and that, is why, the parents’ roles in the child’s life is especially important, now, more so than ever!

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A Ninety-Five Year Old Elderly Woman Used a Paintbrush, to Help Herself Recover from Her Brain Injuries

From the Front Page Sections, translated…

A ninety-five year old elderly woman in Nantou, ten years ago, picked up her paintbrush again, and joined in the elderly watercolor class, to fulfill the dreams she couldn’t get to in her childhood years; later, she was even able to use painting, to help herself out of the troubles from subdural hematoma, to help herself paint a colorful world, in her elderly years.

Given Up on Her Studies, and Worked as a Female Seamstress to Help the Family Out

“The household is poor, we must help out in the fields, how would we have the time to study the books?”, back in 1929, Cheng-Chang, because she was from a poverty-stricken home, she didn’t have any normal schooling until she was ten, in the elementary schools.  The elderly woman recalled, that because of her outstanding academic performances, she was chosen as a competitor in the arts by her second grade teacher, to represent her school, but, because of her household economics, after she’d graduated elementary school, she’d entered into the workforce.

In 1935, Cheng-Chang entered into a paper factory, and because of how skilled she was, she’d represented the factory, and won the second place trophy for paper making.  When she was twenty-five, she’d followed her mother’s lead, married as a second wife, and became the mother of four stepchildren, and so, she’d quitted her job, and focused on being a full-time housewife and mother, and her dreams of writing calligraphy and painting, dissipated into the wind.

At Age Near Eighty, She’d Picked Up the Paintbrush Again

The time flies, Cheng-Chang met up with art once more, but, it was already sixty years since, at the age of over eighty, because she no longer needed to worry about household chores anymore, on one afternoon, the memories of her, writing and painting came up, it’d made her picked up the paint brushes again, and this accidental twist in her life had become an opportunity for her, to take up painting once more.

At age eighty-five back in 2004, in her daughter’s encouragement, the elderly woman entered a class of elderly painters, and, in the instructors of a professional instructor, she’d focused very hard, whether it be flowers, birds, people, even memories from the past, they all came to life under her paintbrush.

It’s just, that you can’t expect the unexpected, at age eighty-seven, Cheng-Chang had an accidental fall, and had hematoma in her brain, and stayed in the ICU, but, as she was just recovering, she’d picked up the brush again, and she couldn’t tell the difference between the varied colored or shapes.  But gladly, the family kept encouraging the elderly woman to practice, and so, she was able to get back to the skill level she was at from before, and, turns out, painting became an alternative form of physical therapy for her!

At age ninety-five right now, she’d focused on reciting the Buddhist verses daily and painting, to allow herself to “live and paint until death”, a life filled with colors.

And so, that, is how it goes, to keep one’s mind sharp, you MUST find a hobby and pursue it, endlessly, and, just like this elderly woman here, she didn’t give up, even AFTER she had problems with her brain, and, her art became an alternative form of physical therapy for her, it’d helped her get better.

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The True Meaning of Success

Making a Difference in the Lives of Others, Making Your Lives Count!

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A Child Returned the Money She’d Found, and the Grandmother Scolded Her, and Falsified to the Police that the Money the Child Found Was Hers

A very B-A-D role model this grandmother is setting for the child here, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

“We could withdraw the money, and go dine at McDonald’s!”, the eleven year old girl who found a purse, and delivered it to the offices was scolded by her grandmother for being “stupid”; then, the grandmother falsified that she’s the one who’d lost the money, and got the money, later, she was caught, and is now, being sued.  The grandmother showed a deep sense of remorse, and the person who’d lost the money, a student named Wu was willing to forgive her, the D.A. stated that the grandmother will have a delayed sentence, but she must attend two seminars of education of the laws.

The sixth grade child, Yeh early in the year on March 8th, at around eleven o’clock, was waiting for her grandmother to pick them up with her younger brother at the elementary school MRT station, before the grandmother arrived, the little girl went to the bathroom, she’d found a black wallet, with a little over $1,700N.T., she’d turned it into the counters.

As the child was picked up by her grandmother and was going home with her, she’d told the grandmother the good deed she’d done, she thought her grandmother would praise her, but she was scolded, “You STUPID child, you don’t need to return it, finders keepers.”, then, the grandmother told the granddaughter to lead her back to the MRT station, and told the manager at the office, Hsu, that she’d dropped her wallet, after they’d gotten the wallet, the grandmother-grandchild went to McDonald’s to dine too. not long thereafter, a high school girl, Wu, went to the MRT, giving the description of the wallet, and said that it had a piano keyboard pattern on it; as Hsu heard, he felt that something wasn’t right, and believed, that someone had falsified her/himself as the owner, and called the police.

The police reviewed the surveillance, and found that the wallet did indeed, belong to Wu, and, they’d tracked down the elderly based off of the information she’d left them, the grandmother stated, that she was overcome with greed, and that she’d already found the wallet with the money, might as well spend it, she’d become a bad role model for her granddaughter.

The man running the D.A.’s office, Huang pointed out, that based off of the civil laws number 805, after the citizens found money, in six months, they could ask for a payment from the people who’d lost the money, and get ten percent of the found amount, and called out to the people, to NOT be overcome with greed that they’d broken a law.

And we still have a very B-A-D role model here, and, guess how this child will REact the next time she’d found some money that’s NOT hers at the side of the road?  She’s more than likely to take it as her own, and, it’s all because of this elderly woman who FAILED to instill the RIGHT kind of values in the child she was taking care of.

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A Child with Downs’s Syndrome Learned to Weave Baskets and Helped His Mother Sell Them on the Side of the Road

From the Front Page Sections, translated…

A twenty-seven year old Downs’s Syndrome guy, Wei-Wei, Hong-Wei Chen, could not articulate, his hands are NOT very able, but, he’d worked on his skills, learned to weave up baskets; in the past six years, he’d set up a roadside stand with his mother on the tourism attraction streets of Lugang, from not knowing how to count, to giving the customers the correct changes, and said, “Come in for a browse” to his customers.  Seeing how much her son had improved, the mother, Peng was moved beyond words.

Peng said, she is a single mother, as she’d taken her son, Wei-Wei to set up her roadside stands, Wei-Wei would get weird looks from passersby, or people would shout bad things out to insult him, she felt sad about that, but, Wei-Wei would always walk to her, and give her a hug, and kissed her, said, “Mom, I love you”; Wei-Wei’s understanding became the motivation for her, to keep going.

When Hong-Wei Chen was born, he was diagnosed with Downs’s Syndrome, and accompanied by not having an anus, he couldn’t go on his own, later, the doctors surgically placed an anus inside of his body, he couldn’t control his bowel movements; Peng taught her son to clean up after his own messes, and now, not only can he clean himself up, he’d also helped his mother with simple household chores, such as folding the laundry and sweeping the floors.

Peng originally worked in a factory, and her mother took over the care for her son, and, at age four, Wei-Wei became extremely mischievous, plus her mother is aging, and so, Peng quit her job and stayed at home to care for her son, at the same time, she took over work in handicrafts, or other simple things that people needed help on.

In order to provide for the family, Peng would often work until after ten at night, Wei-Wei told her he wanted to help out, she’d taught her son to weave the baskets that her customers can carry the things they bought from her away; even though, Wei-Wei is not really able-bodied with his hands, he’d still worked hard to learn, she’d used encouragements instead of reprimands or punishments, to allow him to have a TON of practices, and now, weaving baskets is NO trouble for him.

In order to teach Wei-Wei to get along with others, she’d gone into the arts and crafts village in Lugang, and sold bags made from recycled materials, and, Wei-Wei sold the toys, the candies they’d bought from the wholesalers, and helped his mother make the bags.  As he was focused on making the takeaway bags, the customers standing around gave him applause and encouraged him, “Wei Wei, you’re so amazing!”

And so, this mother gave her son an important thing, she’d taught him HOW to make a living, she’d trained him to have a skill that he could live off of, and that, is the MOST important thing in the world right now, having viable skills, and, this is despite his condition too.

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