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Spoiling My Demented Mother, So What IF I Needed to Treat Her Like a Child from Time to Time

So here, we’re treating our demented elderly parents like our children? Would that work? I wonder, translated…

Both my parents resided in the southern regions, but my father feared that we may worry, and kept the fact, that my mother started showing signs of dementia from us, for instance, she’d forgotten to cook when the skies turned dark, or how she’d buy the same items of clothing over and over again, how she didn’t know how to pay for her meals at the breakfast shops, how she’d neglected to pay attention to how messy the house became. It wasn’t until my mother strayed from the group when they’d gone on tour at 101, did the family decide, to ask my younger sister, who runs a afterschool care program for kids.

But, from the mentioning of my younger sister, as my mother saw the kids misbehaved, she’d scolded them harshly, making them cry; my mother loved sweets, and would drink the juice boxes that belonged to the students; without watching her closely, she’d wandered out of the front gates of the school, and, they’d have to send our search parties for her.

In order to alleviate the stresses of my younger sister, caring for our mother, I’d picked my mother up during the summer and winter vacations. At first, toward my mother’s inquiries and blames, I’d automatically reply to her, using my teaching methods. For instance, my mother often forgot to eat, and, in the midnight hours, she’d said she was hungry. I’d tried very hard, to convince her, that she already ate, but she’d scolded me, “Are you trying to starve me to death?” Afterwards, I’d thought about it, make her a cup of milk, problem solved!

After just a few short days, staying with me, my mother hollered about how she wanted to go home, and stared out the windows a lot. Missing home, she’d missed the paper flower, that was planted outside her front door, it’s just, that she will never, find her way back, to the home she was familiar with again.

Because of my mother’s dementia, she’d forgotten about the miseries of her life previously, I’d wondered often, if I could have this last parts of her life to do over again, I would’ve certainly, gone from the angles of her needs, to love her, to allow her to have things her way, so she, who loves looking pretty, can have a happier life.

But, you can’t, and this, is all, regrets talking, but hey, it wasn’t your fault, because, NO demented elderly person comes with a “manual”, and, each situation is different, meaning that the signs in one demented elderly, may not apply to the behaviors of another, and so, we still must, live with what we’d done, or didn’t do, and move on…

 

 

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With the Elderly Companion Volunteer’s Accompaniment, the Asian-Korean Woman Was Able to Get Out of the Darkness

Kindness, still rolls around here, in this world of ours, from the Papers, translated…

The seventy-four year-old Chinese-Korean woman, Yi-Jen Ni-Dong after her husband and son passed, and she herself had been diagnosed with bone cancer, her life fell into the lows, the man in charge of her borough, Chou helped her apply for two elderly companions, slowly, she’d gotten her original optimism back again, and, had from time to time, make Korean kimchi to give to her neighbors.

Yi-Jen Ni-Dong, at age thirty-eight, followed her parents to Taiwan, after she married, she had a son, but her son died in a car crash when she was just eighteen, her husband also became bedridden, there were over five years in her life when she’d gone from her home and the nursing home, to look after her husband, until he’d died three years ago.

After her husband died, Yi-Jen Ni-Dong lost the center of her life instantaneously, locked herself up at home for a long time, after Chou realized this, he’d called up the elderly volunteer coordinator, Chen and Cho for the Social Services Department of Hsinbei City, the two ladies had accompanied the elderly woman to parks for exercise, gone on shopping trips to the local marketplaces, and, Ni-Dongn slowly walked out of the shadows of her own life, she’s grateful for the kindness shown by the volunteers.

Chen said, that Grandma Ni used to say, how she hated to impose, that she must take good care of herself, but, she rarely turned on the television, the house became so quiet, and her temperament became more withdrawn too, but, after their accompaniment and counseling her, she’d started becoming more and more optimistic again, and got that smile back too, she is very happy for the elderly woman.

Cho said, that she’d gotten a kidney transplant, and had wanted to give something back to the community, with the interactions with Grandma In, the volunteering had made her life even more meaningful.

And so, this, is a program that benefitted BOTH the volunteers and the receivers, because the person who gets accompanied by the volunteers no longer feel so alone, and the volunteers get to get a firsthand experience of how wonderful it is, to change someone’s life, to make a difference, in the lives of others too.

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When Your Childhood Became BAD for Your Health

Traumatized, are we???  Well, WELCOME, to OUR C-L-U-B!!!

When your childhood became BAD for your health, you DO still realize, that this, is THE long-term effects from NOT effectively, SORTING things through as you’d encountered them, right?

When your childhood became BAD for your health, well, everybody IS traumatize, by HER/HIS childhood, to some extent, you’re NOT the only one on this GOD DAMN planet who’s been DAMAGED you know?  And, you had, ZERO right, to DAMAGE someone else, JUST because you were damaged, and you just don’t realize that, at all.

When your childhood became BAD for your health, it’s expected, because you’d left everything back there (in the past), ON that BACKBURNER, and, that backburner’s burnt on, for, GOD knows HOW long already, and, you’re still not turning OFF the fires yet?  Do you want to, BURN down that house where your childhoods were kept?  And, what good, would that do?

When your childhood became BAD for your health, well, there’s NOTHING to do ‘bout that now, what’s DONE, is DONE, is D-O-N-E, and it still can’t be, UNDONE.  When your childhood became BAD for your health, how could this be?  I distinctly remembered, that my childhood was happy, with parents who gave us EVERYTHING they possibly could, and now, you tell me, I’d had a rough childhood?  How am I supposed to cope with that, huh???

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A Nation of A.D.H.D.

This, is where, we find, ourselves, with kids, overly active, jumping UP AND DOWN, twenty-four seven, and, it’s like, they’d all become, the Energizer Bunny, that just runs, nonstop, without, EVER needing to get that “recharge”!

A nation of A.D.H.D., this, would be the situation we’re currently looking at one in three kid, being diagnosed, maybe???  Because all you GOD DAMN parents, just wanted to have it easy, to have a kid who’s calm, AND collected, when you need them to BE QUIET!!!  But hey, guess what?  Kids are NOT going to BE quiet, because making a HUGE raucous, is what they’re bound to do!  Do you not recall that kid from the last time, who’d gotten HIS entire HEAD, STUCK in the cookie jar already?

And because NONE of you, god DAMN parents are better-equipped to DEAL with your way too ACTIVE, way too JUMPY kids, that, is why, you’d taken them to the shrinks’, and, have them, medicate your own offspring, without knowing, that sending them to a BASKETBALL court, or giving them a TRAMPOLINE to JUMP on, would do the T-R-I-C-K!!!

But, because NONE of you, STUPID (yes, that, would be WHAT you ALL are!!!) parents GET that, therefore, it is, my PREDICTION (and this being MY site and all???), that ALL of your children will become, to heavily MEDICATED, to even react to the least amount of stimulus………

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The Young Mother Who Was Saved from Suicide, “I’d Strangled My Two Children to Death”

From the Front Page Sections, translated…

A young married woman, Lin, awhile back, took her two young kids to commit suicide by overdosing, the two kids are dead, the woman was rushed to the hospital and is now, out of danger, the police officers yesterday went to interrogate Lin, she’d cried and told them that she was emotionally unstable that day, that she’d fed her kids some medication, waited until they passed out, then, strangled them both.

Lin was very emotional when the police interrogated her, mentioned how “in the current world, there’s nothing keeping us here, I don’t want to let them live, so they’d have to weather through more pains in the futures”, “After I’d killed them both, I’d tried committing suicide.”

Lin said, in the little over six years, she’d been troubled by mental difficulties, went to two clinics to see doctors, and got medicines, later she’d gone off her meds, and in the past year, she’d started back on them once more.

On the 27th of last month, in the afternoon, she’d driven her kids to Kenting, and, on the way, she’d become emotionally unstable again, and gone off the freeways, bought some fast food at a fast food joint in Mingshyong, then, took her kids to a motel, mixed the pills into their drinks, waited until her kids passed out, she’d strangled them, her daughter tried to fight, then, she’d strangled her daughter with a rope, then, she’d downed the rest of the pills.

Lin said, she wanted to commit suicide, and didn’t want to leave her kids, to become burdens to her families, decided to take them with her, that, was why she’d strangled them to death.  Lin also said, that she and her husband were getting along very well, other than the occasional altercations, there was NO economic stresses, nor was there affair on her husband’s part, or domestic violence.

After Lin woke up yesterday, the family members consoled her that everything was all right, that the kids are fine, that they’d been taken back to Taichung already, but Lin knew, that she’d killed her kids by strangulation, as the police was about to interrogate her, she’d started crying, and when she told them how she’d strangled her kids, she was crying so hard she couldn’t even talk, said that she is in deep regret.

Yesterday as the coroner’s autopsied the young children, they’d found that the muscles of the young girl’s hyoid muscles had hemorrhages, and that there were finger markings on her neck, that she’d died of suffocation, the coroners then took samples of the internal organs, and sent the sample to the justice department to determine if there are drugs in the systems.  Because Lin had histories in depression, she’s still in the I.C.U., with the police, keeping a close eye on her.

And so, this mother has a history of depression, and, she didn’t want to keep her kids on this earth without her, so that, was why she’d killed them first, then, attempted suicide, and now, she’s going to have to live with the fact, the guilt, that she’d MURDERED her own young, for what?  Her own selfish reasons!

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Geniuses, Locked Up, in the Psych Ward

This, is what’s happening, to a LOT of the geniuses out there, because they’re believed to be, delusional, and, the best way, to deal with these geniuses, is by, locking them all up, in the psych ward, and, throw away the K-E-Y-S!!!

Geniuses, locked up, in the psych ward, because the world is, unaccepting, to the views, of these geniuses, or, perhaps, the rest of the world is, envious, of how intelligent they are, and that, was why, the world is, trying, to bring them all, down, to the level, of the ordinary man, who knows???

Geniuses, locked up, in the psych ward, and, those geniuses, they still believed, that there is, NOTHING wrong with their thoughts, emotions, and belief systems, so what IF, they’re all, a bit, eccentric?  So what IF, they may be, maladapted, to the world outside?  They are still, geniuses, and, just because they behaved a bit weirder, does that mean, that the authorities have the rights to, LOCK ‘em all up, and throw away the keys?  What happens to THEIR human rights?  Their rights to LIFE, LIBERTY, and, don’t they too, have the rights, to pursue, WHAT make them happy, like the rest of us, normal people in the world???

Geniuses, locked up, in the psych ward, because their minds are way, too advanced, for the world to accept, and, god knows how long, for the rest of the world, to finally, get caught up with them, and so, it’s still, in the best interests, of everybody, that these geniuses, remained, locked up, in the psych wards………

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Geniuses, Locked Up, in the Psych Ward

This, is what’s happening, to a LOT of the geniuses out there, because they’re believed to be, delusional, and, the best way, to deal with these geniuses, is by, locking them all up, in the psych ward, and, throw away the K-E-Y-S!!!

Geniuses, locked up, in the psych ward, because the world is, unaccepting, to the views, of these geniuses, or, perhaps, the rest of the world is, envious, of how intelligent they are, and that, was why, the world is, trying, to bring them all, down, to the level, of the ordinary man, who knows???

Geniuses, locked up, in the psych ward, and, those geniuses, they still believed, that there is, NOTHING wrong with their thoughts, emotions, and belief systems, so what IF, they’re all, a bit, eccentric?  So what IF, they may be, maladapted, to the world outside?  They are still, geniuses, and, just because they behaved a bit weirder, does that mean, that the authorities have the rights to, LOCK ‘em all up, and throw away the keys?  What happens to THEIR human rights?  Their rights to LIFE, LIBERTY, and, don’t they too, have the rights, to pursue, WHAT make them happy, like the rest of us, normal people in the world???

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Retreating, BACK, into that Forgotten, Darkened Corner, of His Mind

Retreating, BACK, into that forgotten, darkened corner, of his mind again, it’s been, a long time, since he last, visited that bad place, but this time, the “stay”, was longer, than ALL of his, previous “trips” there…

Retreating, BACK, into that forgotten, darkened corner, of his mind again, there’s NO doubt, that he’d still, gone there, from time to time, but this, hadn’t happened, since he’d gotten O-U-T, from the life he’d known.  Retreating, BACK, into that forgotten, darkened corner, of his mind again, and this time, he’s having, a HELL of a time, finding his way, back out, of that hard-to-manage, labyrinth.  Retreating, BACK, into the forgotten, darkened corner, of his mind, where he’d felt most comforted, surrounding by, the utter and complete darkness.

Retreating, BACK, into that forgotten, darkened corner, of his mind, there is, NO way, for him, to come back out, of that hard to manage, labyrinth, especially, without the help, of a good woman, and, he’d driven her away, a very, very, very, long time ago.  Retreating BACK, into that forgotten, darkened corner, of his mind, how did that happen?  There must’ve been something major, that’s happened to him recently, for him, to spiral downward like that, because, last I recalled, he was still, very well, functioning, in this ordinary world…

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From Hope to Despair, a Group Suicide, the Experts’ Opinions on the Shooting at Prison

Dissecting the group suicide at the prison in Kaohsiung recently, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

Why did a group of inmates in the Kaohsiung penitentiary commit suicide together?  The experts said, that inmates with antisocial personalities are not good at impulse control, plus the environmental stimuli, along with being there for a friend, it could cause the behaviors of mass group suicide.

The long-term psychologist who was stationed at the prison systems, Ong said, that these inmates are repeated offenders, with antisocial personality characteristics, with the traits of being intelligent, after they’d behaved themselves in the prisons, they’d gotten paroled, but, not long after, they’d offend again, and get returned back to the cages, and the vicious cycle just keeps on repeating; because they have almost NO abilities to introspect, they’d felt, that the society had done them injustice.

Ong believed, that they may be displeased, at how they’ll be serving out the rest of their lives in prison, and, if there are some catalysts, they’d have the thought of give me liberty or give me death.

He said, holding the warden hostage and calling out to the television stations gave the inmates a sense of power, led them to believe, that they can actually get away, in the end, they’d realized, that they couldn’t escape, and, their expectations dropped to despair, and that, may have caused their behaviors to commit mass suicide.

And so, that, would be the shrink’s dissection of the matter, but, is it really so, we don’t know, or perhaps, none of those inmates felt that they can live with the fact, of serving life, getting tortured forever for whatever bad behaviors they’d done, they just couldn’t withstand the tortures from their own guilty consciences, who knows???

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A Corner of the Psych Ward

There’s a portrait that came with this one, of a girl, with red eyes, and her body blended into the backgrounds, translated…

The girl sitting opposite of me was using her cell, “I’m sorry, I’d made you worry.”, her nose looked red.  The nurse quickly came out, told her that the doctor wants her to check in immediately, that she needed to head over to the E.R. to get checked in.

My nose went sour too, I wanted to rush over to hold the girl and tell her, “it’s okay, everything will pass.”

In the ten year’s time, I’d watched the people come in and out of the psych ward.  Some looked fashionable and normal, as if, the psych ward is now, a trendy place to visit.

Some people, with eyes empty, and blank looks on their faces.  There was an elderly woman, that stared me, straight in the eyes, told me, “I want to kill myself, what do I do?”, and, there was an older man who flashed himself, with his aging father, trying to stop him.

There is someone who banged on the doors hurriedly, said that he was feeling too awful, that he couldn’t wait any longer, if he could be the first in line.  Sometimes, I’d heard patients chatting with one another, telling one another how their families are all psychos, and that they’re the ones, handling all of it.  Some were asked, and just said that “there was something huge that happened to my family.”

I’d gone in and out, other people there were decorative scenes, in the eyes of others, I’m probably an enigma too.  Is there someone out there, who also wanted to tell me, “Girl, everything will come to pass.”

And so, this, is the observation that someone had made, on her trip to the mental ward, and, it showed how modern day people are in need of shrinks, because there are just, too many issues in people’s lives that they simply, can’t handle, that, is why the shrinks are making a TON of money, and, everybody in this waiting room has her/his share of issues and problems they’re dealing, coping with, and, everybody IS equal, in this waiting room in the psych ward.

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