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Ways to Stop an Old Flame from Harrassing You

Now these, may OR may NOT work, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

  • Clearly, but in a mild manner, tell the person “no”, other than giving the other person a way out gracefully, it can also help prevent making the other person angry…

Here’s what I THINK: if you don’t CLEARLY tell the OTHER person that it IS O-V-E-R, then, wouldn’t that leave a window of opportunity, for the person to think, “hey, I might still have a chance”, I get that letting the other person down gentle, it’s safer, but IF you’re NOT clear-CUT on your methods, then, the other person might misinterpret it as “oh, I might have a slight chance”, then, you’d end UP with MORE problems than E-V-E-R, especially IF you’d started dating again.

  • Move away when necessary, to avoid opportunities for contact

Hello, what happens if the other person turns into a STALKER, then, wouldn’t you be in more danger than you’d begun with?  Uh, D-U-H!  And, moving away is just escaping the problem, NOT dealing with it, and, IF you don’t deal with it, then, it has an OVER-a-HUNDRED percent CHANCE, of coming back, and BITING you in the A-S-S!

  • Asking a mutual friend to act as the middleman, to convey the message, include the reasons of why the two of you are NOT fitting together, to avoid the misunderstanding of the parties involved, and allowing the pursuer to falsely believe that you’re playing hard to get.

Yeah, IF the person who’s harassing you is RECEPTIVE to outside opinion, but mostly, the harasser isn’t, and, even IF the reasons for why the two of you should NOT be together is dissected so clearly, the person who’s refusing to let go may NOT see it that way, and so, this, would have a very little effect, I think.

  • If the other person continues to harass you, change your phone numbers, and block the other person’s phone numbers
  • But, you KNOW what, those old flames turned PSYCHOS have a TON of resource, and, s/he will manage to TRACK you down, and, you’d get dragged BACK into the reality of getting harassed again, and, NO matter how many times you’d changed your addresses, your phone numbers, and, even IF you’d moved to a brand new city, and thought that you’re FREE from the person, you’d still be looking OVER your shoulders, and you’d get scared, at the sound of the phone ringing, so, how’s that effectively solving the problem? It is N-O-T!
  • When the harassment got to the point that it’d affected your daily lives, call the police, and ask for help.

Now, we’re finally involving the L-A-W, but, you know how well those god DAMN restraining orders worked already, don’t you?  And, the person who’s harassing will NOT stop, until the one who is getting harassed is back with her/him, or is killed, and so, it still doesn’t end well either way.

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They’d Dated Only for a Month, and She’d Been Hounded by Him for Three Years

Another one who just REFUSES to LET go, even AFTER love is OVER, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

A man, Chou and his ex-girlfriend, Wen, who were dating for only JUST a month, and they’d broken up since three years ago, and Chou wasn’t pleased at how he was “dumped”, he’d called her up often, texted her nonstop, hoping that she’d meet with him again, and Wen could withstand the harassments, sued him.  The Shihlin District Attorney’s office found that Chou only sent text messages that is harmless, and so, they didn’t prosecute him.

The D.A. stated, that even though, Chou’s behaviors are not acceptable, and he’d created a TON of discomfort in his ex’s life, but, his behaviors did NOT constitute as criminal act, they’d suggested that Weng go through the civil courts to get this resolved.

Weng had once operated a lotto shop, and Chou had interviewed as her employee, after a month of dating, Weng felt that they are too different, and decided to break up.  Later, Chou went into the service, and Weng went to a hotel in Takoro to work, and they’d never met up again.

Weng accused, that while she was working at the hotel, her coworker told her, “There’s a Mr. Chou looking for you”, she was shocked, “It’s been so very long…”, she’d suspected that her personal information was leaked out.

“I swear I will NEVER use violence, can we meet up tonight?”, “You had gone off my radar, and, you’re probably doing lowly deeds right now!”  Weng put up the evidence of the messages she’d received from Chou as evidence.

As the D.A. opened up the case, Chou claimed, that what he was doing was NOT threatening, nor was it harassment, that he’d just wanted to have an amicable meeting with his ex-girlfriend.  The D.A. examined the text messages from Chou, and found, that mostly, they were about his state of being, “I’m hungry and tired right now”, “I hate Valentine’s Day”, etc., etc., etc., and he’d even reminded her of a movie that’s playing on AXN”, begged his girlfriend to take him back, that there were NO threats.

The D.A. stated, that even though, Chou had once stated to Weng, “You’re the culprit for causing your mother to turn demented”, but, the messages were sent to just his ex-girlfriend, that he didn’t spread it out to someone else, and so, it didn’t constitute as libel and slander.

Yeah, that’s just for THIS time, what about the NEXT time?  What if, the next time this LOSER decided to put HIS own words into action, and started harassing the woman even more?  After all, there’s a VERY thin line here, and because the boundaries are still very G-R-A-Y-E-D out, that, is how this, is a typically dangerous case scenario.

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Threatening to Get Back Together

Dangerous lover alert!!!

Threatening to get back together, because I need you in my love, darlin’, I can’t live without you, you’re everything to me, now I know, I shouldn’t have gotten drunk and came home late that night, and beat the SHIT out of you, but, had I not gotten FIRED by my DICK HEAD boss, and as I’d left the office, I can feel my coworkers, laughing AT me, I wouldn’t have needed to go to that local bar to get WASTED, and, had you not NAGGED me nonstop after I got home from drinking, then, I wouldn’t have HIT you, and punched your eyes!

And now, after that nasty hangover, I saw things more clearly, and I realized, that I shouldn’t have hit you, and so, that, is why, I’m on my knees (if you want to make it believable, get on ALL FOURS!!!), begging you please, please forgive me, and I promise I will NEVER lose my temper, or beat the SHIT out of you again.

And, because you still wasn’t moved, I got MAD, because it’s MY incompetence that caused me to lose you, but, I don’t want to admit to myself, that I am, indeed, incompetent, and so, I projected my anger onto you.

Threatening to get back together, and, so what if you got back together, is the relationship mended?  Or, is it even MORE broken from before?  After all, you’d FORCED the other person to take you back, against her/his will, didn’t you?  So, how can you be sure, that her/his heart will forever BE true?

Threatening to get back together, and if you don’t, I’ll, I’ll, I’ll SET myself on F-I-R-E in front of you, so you can watch me B-U-R-N, and, after I die, you’d be left with the guilts, of NOT allowing me back into your life.

What DOES this sound like?  Emotional blackmail, abuse, THE V-I-C-I-O-U-S C-Y-C-L-E?  Hmmmmmmmmmmmm, what do Y-O-U think???

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Because She Wanted to Break Up with Him, He’d Strangled Her

 

From the Online Newspapers here, translated…

A twenty-three-year-old woman, Chien, early in the morning today, was found, strangled to death in her own kitchen, the police pointed out, that the woman had just broken up with a man of age twenty-eight for a year, the boyfriend came home from Taipei, and wanted to see her, but she’d said no.

The neighbors of the woman, a before eight o’clock in the morn today, found Chiu, wandering around the neighborhoods, and the woman’s mother, at eight-thirty, received a call from her work colleague, saying that she didn’t show up for work, she’d rushed home to check up on her daughter, found her daughter, strangled to death, and, at eight fifty, she’d called the cops, and rushed her child to the hospital, but, she was already dead.

The police believed, that Chiu is the primary suspect, and he didn’t return to him home in Chingshui, and so, the police are currently, tracking his whereabouts.

And, because this IS the preliminaries, we can only speculate, but, if this man DID kill his soon-to-be-EX, then, the man has a REALLY low E.Q., just because someone wants to break up with you, still doesn’t give YOU the right, to take their lives, does it, and, IF the boyfriend did it, he will NEVER be able to rest, because of HIS guilty conscience!

 

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Because She Wanted to Break Up with Him, He’d Strangled Her

From the Online Newspapers here, translated…

A twenty-three-year-old woman, Chien, early in the morning today, was found, strangled to death in her own kitchen, the police pointed out, that the woman had just broken up with a man of age twenty-eight for a year, the boyfriend came home from Taipei, and wanted to see her, but she’d said no.

The neighbors of the woman, a before eight o’clock in the morn today, found Chiu, wandering around the neighborhoods, and the woman’s mother, at eight-thirty, received a call from her work colleague, saying that she didn’t show up for work, she’d rushed home to check up on her daughter, found her daughter, strangled to death, and, at eight fifty, she’d called the cops, and rushed her child to the hospital, but, she was already dead.

The police believed, that Chiu is the primary suspect, and he didn’t return to him home in Chingshui, and so, the police are currently, tracking his whereabouts.

And, because this IS the preliminaries, we can only speculate, but, if this man DID kill his soon-to-be-EX, then, the man has a REALLY low E.Q., just because someone wants to break up with you, still doesn’t give YOU the right, to take their lives, does it, and, IF the boyfriend did it, he will NEVER be able to rest, because of HIS guilty conscience!

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Because She Wanted to Break Up with Him, He’d Strangled Her

From the Online Newspapers here, translated…

A twenty-three-year-old woman, Chien, early in the morning today, was found, strangled to death in her own kitchen, the police pointed out, that the woman had just broken up with a man of age twenty-eight for a year, the boyfriend came home from Taipei, and wanted to see her, but she’d said no.

The neighbors of the woman, a before eight o’clock in the morn today, found Chiu, wandering around the neighborhoods, and the woman’s mother, at eight-thirty, received a call from her work colleague, saying that she didn’t show up for work, she’d rushed home to check up on her daughter, found her daughter, strangled to death, and, at eight fifty, she’d called the cops, and rushed her child to the hospital, but, she was already dead.

The police believed, that Chiu is the primary suspect, and he didn’t return to him home in Chingshui, and so, the police are currently, tracking his whereabouts.

And, because this IS the preliminaries, we can only speculate, but, if this man DID kill his soon-to-be-EX, then, the man has a REALLY low E.Q., just because someone wants to break up with you, still doesn’t give YOU the right, to take their lives, does it, and, IF the boyfriend did it, he will NEVER be able to rest, because of HIS guilty conscience!

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A Man Used Porn to Get His Courage Up, to Rape His Seventeen-Year-Old Younger Sister-in-Law

And you still don’t think that watching those VIOLENCE and SEXUAL shits are affecting your minds???  From the Newspapers, translated…

A Man in his twenties had the eyes for his wife’s younger brother’s seventeen-year-old wife, and when he’d gone to visit his brother-in-law’s house, he’d made sure that his wife’s sister-in-law, and her baby were home alone, and he’s watched porn in their living room, to work up his courage, then, waited until the woman’s asleep, then, he raped her, and the D.A. in Hsinbei City prosecuted him based off of forced sexual acts.

A man in his twenties saw that his younger brother-in-law’s seventeen year old wife was sexy, and got horny; at the end of last December, one morning, he’d called her house, to make sure that she was home alone, then, he’d gone to pay her a visit.

When the brother-in-law was taking a nap with the baby, the man watched porn in her living room, to get his courage up, waited until the woman and her baby was sound asleep, then, he’d snuck into the bedroom, took the baby to the side, then, pinned the woman down, the woman fought him off nonstop, but because he was way too strong, he was able to rape her successfully.

Afterwards, the man told him, “It’s just for this once, don’t tell your husband”; the woman felt she was shamed, didn’t know how to tell her family, she’d used a crafts knife and slashed her own arms, and posted the pictures of her bleeding arms onto Facebook, with the captions, “This, is a sort of beauty, a sort of a warning, that not everybody is to be trusted by me.” Her husband noticed this, called the police, and the police caught his brother-in-law.  The D.A. found that the evidences were stacked up against the man, and that he’d raped a woman who was NOT yet eighteen, and asked the courts for a more severe punishment.

And, just because a woman is very hot or sexy, that still does NOT give you the right to fucking rape her, and, on top of that, you’d watched porn, to help boost your courage to rape her, and that merely shows, that pornography have the tendency to cause MORE violence against members of the opposite sex, but it’s still JUST a correlation, NOT a causation…

 

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