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Cave Dive, by Joe Dunthorne

He remembers being six

Lying on his back beneath a kitchen chair

Gazing up at his father’s unmapped nostrils

His mother’s skirt riffling past like a spotted eagle ray

Underneath the dining table

He found pencil marks: a quarter circle and two words underscored

Possible extension

Back then it was a code or perhaps a solution to a code

On the cave bed

It takes a blue whale’s long blink

To fathom what one plus one turns into

The sky peers down from blue-green slots like the lamp fittings of his youth

His slow mind thinks time is just another surface he can pass through

The swirling halocline that keeps us from our pasts:

The fresh and the preserved

Back in his father’s study, pouring a bag of marbles across the rug

In the glow from the tentacled lampshade

He holds up his Bosser, sees himself swimming in its spiral reef

Letting drift his aqualung

He is either young or drunk

From his lips he scatters balls of glass

From this, you can see how ACTIVE the imagination of a child can be, and this poet wrote with such lively imagery too, didn’t he?  And, with the shattering of the fish tank, comes the reality of how he realized, that he can’t always dream, that he must live in the reality of things, and that, is the cruel part about growing up…

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Heard Her Screams

Uh oh, this, is what happens, in a neighborhood, “crowded” with residents…

We’d all heard her screams, but, because we KNOW that we’re NOT the only ones who can possibly hear her scream, and so, we’re NOT at all, likely to go over to her place, to check on her, after all, if we’d heard her screams, someone else must have too, right?

Heard her screams, but you CHOSE to ignore, and now, she’s dead, and, like it or don’t, you WILL forever, BE haunted, by your guilty conscience, because you could’ve done something, to change the outcomes of her life, after all, how H-A-R-D is it, to dial 9-1-1, that’s JUST three numbers, and, you don’t even have to pay for it on your phone bills, I think…

Heard her screams, but why did you NOT do anything about it?  Because her screams were so FUCKING loud that it SHOT through the roofs, and, IF you’d heard her screams, than, someone ELSE must have too, right?  So, let someone ELSE call the cops for her!  Heard her screams, oh wait, that scream did NOT come from her, NOT this time, it came from you, and yet, you feel your voices, being muffled up, and, you struggle, to get back above the water, but, the water kept coming down on your heads, and, you ended up, drowning………

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Lose the Self to Get Everybody to Like You

From the “lips” of Joan Erikson, the late wife of E. Erikson, the psychosocial theorist???

“Don’t, for the sake of appeasing to others, to negate the self, otherwise, you’d only be losing your sense of the self”.

And now, take a look around yourselves, and at yourselves too, how many of YOU are people-pleasers, who ended up, throwing YOUR own values away, to comply with the “wishes” and “demands” of the mass majority?  And, what DID you get out of it in the end?  Did more people like you better?  Or, do they just go on, about the rest of their lives, as if, you didn’t do ANYTHING?  So, what, DID you gain, from going along with the “mass majority”?  Absolutely N-O-T-H-I-N-G, and, what’s WORSE, is that you’d lost YOURSELVES, and so, the cost still beats OUT the gain, doesn’t it?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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September 4, 2014 · 1:35 am

The Way We Complemented One Another, a Story on Marriage

Translated…

When I was younger, my biggest interest is none, other than being closer to nature, I’d gotten involved with a hiking group, and every weekend, I’d gone hiking on trails with my friends, to take photographs.

Back then, I’d given up on my dreams because of love, even though, my husband is physically handicapped, couldn’t go hiking with me, but he’d supported me entirely, and it’d allowed me to climb the Da-Ba-Jien Mountain, along with the other high mountains here in Taiwan.  My husband is naturally quiet, loved music, did mostly quiet things, but he was more than generous and open, allowed me to attend outdoor functions freely.

One of us is very neat, the other one, not so much so, but we can show understanding toward one another, and show great tolerance toward each other too.  Even though, we’d have verbal disagreements from time to time, but, one of us would willingly back down.

As we slowly passed midlife, recalling how we’d gotten along like two parallel lines from when we were younger, that we never even intersected, the only common thing we had was responsibilities, whether it be toward the kids, the elders, we’d given, without any complaints, and we’d also respected one another, and agreed on things too.

In these couple of years, I took to the teachings of Buddha, worked hard to change myself, and slowly, I’d changed my bad temper too.  We knew to cherish what we shared, along with take advantage of the now.

So, opposites DO attract, huh?  And, these two are very different, and yet, they were able to make their marriage last, and I think, it’s because of that mutual respect toward one another that they both had, as the relationships should be built on respect.

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Swing

Translated…

If I tell people, you are merely wasting the food resources, there’s NO purpose for you being alive, you’re adding to the stresses of the environments, you would totally NOT believe me.  You would all be saying, that you’d once swept up those fallen leaves, picked up any amounts of trash, and talked of how morally responsible you all are, how you loved the masses, the earth.  And still, I will keep on saying, you were NEVER born, you are like zombies, you’re like the breezes of the winds, not leaving a trace.

As I’d talked, on and on, nonstop, to all the passersby, to all the critters and wild animals who’d passed me by, to the insects, the ants too, like there’s a LOT of things, bursting out of my body, incinerated into ashes, underneath the scorching sun, flying all over the places, and, nothing can calm me down again, I feel so much heat out of my body, I’m praying for a perfect storm, even IF you’d held an umbrella over my head, you still couldn’t block out the scorching sun that’ll toast any living being.

The world, must be running on some sort of an invisible track, there must be a certain, unspecified moments that it’s arrived at its final destination too.  And, I’d feel this heavy hammer, pounding on my brains all of a sudden, the history books started blinking, in the darkened corner of a museum, glowing softly.  Are we, trying to find the highs and lows of that river of history?  Is there something inside of us, yearning, to break free from our bodies?

The glows of the yesterdays were under attack, the things that our ancestors did became so clear as day, it’s an disbelieved speculation, bringing before the public, the easily challenged statements.  The beautiful flower, had gotten stomped on and picked up by the public, and it will eventually wither away.  And so, all the people started getting rowdy.  There’s NO more peace to be had now, the truth that people believe in, had become tilted, as the swings went up and down, high and low in the air now.

And so, nothing IS constant, so, how will you adapt to that?  You can only live your lives, best as you could, with good morals, and NOT hurting anybody, knowingly OR unknowingly, that, is all that anybody can asks of you, to KEEP yourselves in check, that way, the world doesn’t get screwed, because all that’s needed for a big machine to stop working is for a small screw to FALL out of ITS place, and, we are ALL small screws that makes up this HUGE machine.

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His Wife and Child Left Him…He’d Placed His Own Teaching Certificate as a “Wager” and Still Betted

In need of serious treatment for a GAMBLING problem here, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

The male P.E. teacher from Jinghua Middle School had gotten so deep in the game, “Bingo-Bingo” he’d owed over four million dollars, last year, he’d placed another bet at the lottery stores, and didn’t pay, and received a delayed jail sentence, his wife took his kids and left him; yesterday, he’d done the same, placed bets of over $40,000N.T at two separate shops, and told the shops that they could have his teaching identification card to keep, claimed that he’s going to get the money for the bets, and ran off, the shops called the police and he was caught.

The forty-one year old teacher Chang four years ago became addicted to the game, “Bingo-Bingo”, and ever since, he’d gone down the dark paths, asked money from his friends and loan sharks to place his bets, and as he was arrested, there was only $100N.T. left inside his wallet; he said with regrets, that he couldn’t defeat the desires to gamble, “maybe I should just CHOP my own fingers off!”

Yesterday Chang went to a lotto shop on Zhongxiao E. Road, asked to get nineteen bets (each one worth $1,250 N.T.), totaling to $23,750N.T.s, and, he’d lost everything.  As the shop asked for him to pay, he’d asked for another game, the shop insisted that he paid them first; he’d told them, that he didn’t have that much on him, and gave them his cell phone number, his teacher’s certificate, along with his driver’s license, claimed that he’s getting more money, and, never returned to the shop again, the shop called him, he’d turned off his cell.

Chang later went to place his bets at another shop, as he was half way done, the shop asked him to pay, he’d told them, “I don’t have the money!”, the shop quickly stopped his bets, but, part of the bets he’d placed were final, and he’d placed eighteen separate bets, totaling up to over $22,000N.T., he’d begged to pay them back at a later date, the shop called the police.

The police arrested him, and booked him based off of fraud; he’d claimed, that he’d betted, to pay off his debts, that he will pay up.  The police found, that this, was NOT the first time that Chang had done this, last year, he’d gone to four separate shops, and owed $40,000N.T., and was sentenced to the jail term of six months, which he was supposed to serve two years later.

Chang said, that at the beginning, it was only for fun, for a few hundred bucks, and then, it’d gotten bigger and bigger, the most he’d betted was $400,000N.T. a time, and because he’d lost, he felt unfair, and he needed to take care of his two elementary aged daughters, “I wanted to get my losses back all at once!”, without knowing, that he’d gotten into the vicious cycle, kept borrowing money to gamble, and now, he’d owed over four million dollars.

He said, his wife already turned cold from trying to get through to him unsuccessfully, last year, she’d divorced him, and took the kids, he worried about how he’ll pay back the money owed, he couldn’t focus on teaching his classes; he knew, that he didn’t have a dime left, and still, he’d wanted to place the bets, “I’d secretly hoped that I’d win big!”.  He said, that last time he was caught, he got a big reprimand from the school, that this time, he might lose his teaching post at the school.

The police told him, that he is able-bodied, and should work hard, to “not ruin your own life!”, and even though, he’d told them, “I understood!”, that he wouldn’t keep going, and he’d used his cell phone, to take out money from the loan sharks, and the police couldn’t do anything to help him.

And this man had gotten drawn in, by the gambler’s fallacy, thinking that the next time he’ll finally win back all he’d lost, and, yet, he kept on this losing streak, until he’d lost his pants, and he still wanted to gamble, and, it may take this LOSER to lose HIS life to finally realize, and by then, it would be too late because he’d be D-E-A-D!!!

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The Birth of a Thought Brings About the Realization of a Fear

This, is still very true, you still have to be taught to fear (like Little Albert & the Rat???).  A thought is being born, and, in ITS earlier stages of “life”, it had NO idea what fears are all about, just as we, as children, born into this world, FEARLESS too, and, with time, and education, and experiences that we’d had, we’d learned to fear.

The birth of a thought brings about the realization of a fear, and sometimes, that fear isn’t realized immediately, but sometime later on, call it a delayed reaction if you will, but, make NO doubt, that with the birth of a thought, fears are going to be acknowledged, and they (the fears???) will come into your conscious mind, instead of being buried deeply, inside your UNCONSCIOUS.

The birth of a thought brings about the realization of a fear, because we are normally unafraid of things, until we were TAUGHT to fear something, because everything IS still “conditioned” (not like the hairdressing method, of course…).

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