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His Father Who’d Had a Stroke Died, and He Didn’t Notify the Police Until the Corpse Became Rotted and Maggots Were Growing on it

From the Front Page Sections, translated…

The police department in Taoyuan received a call from a man named Lee yesterday, said that his father who’d had a stroke for many years had died of natural causes at home, as the police came, they’d found, that Lee’s father had been locked up in the bedroom for long term, and was fed by Lee, who’d sent the food in, by way of the cracks underneath the doors, and the father was found dead by the doors, and there were maggots on his corpse, the police suspected, that there’s more to it to how the man had died, and asked the courts to allow them to take Lee into custody, which the courts allowed.

The police stated, that the fifty-four father of Lee was curled by the door, his face had been eaten by the maggots to beyond any recognition; Lee told the police, that because his father would get violent toward his mother, with a cognitive condition, at the start of May, in order to protect his own mother, he’d used a club, to beat his father, and the police are not ruling out that his father’s death may have been caused by it.

Yesterday at around nine in the morning, the police received a call from Lee, said that his father who’d had a stroke many years ago had died of natural causes at home two days ago, the officers went to check out the scene, they’d found, that Lee and his parents lived in a four-story building; as the officers entered into the apartment, the rancid smell had gotten into their noses.

The room where Lee’s father was found to have died in had little to NO furniture, no chairs, or bed, there wasn’t even a mattress, and, Lee’s father would normally sleep on the floor that’s filled with a ton of junk.

The police asked Lee the reasons, he’d told them, that his father had been abusive toward his mother who was diagnosed with a cognition disorder, and, even though he had a stroke, he’d still crawled out of his bed, and beat up his mother, that, was why he’d tied a boy scout knot on the door, to prevent his father from coming out of the room, and normally, his mother and he would shove the food by cracks on the doors to feed his father.

Lee also told, that when his father was abusive toward his mother, he’d once used a club, to defend his mother, the last time he’d beaten his father up was at the start of May; he’d been busy at work lately, didn’t pay any attention to how his father was, until that rancid smell came from the bedroom, as he’d opened up the doors again, he’d found his father dead.

The police stated, that Lee’s father had another daughter, rented away from home, although she’d come home to visit her mother often, but, because the house was often filled with the smell of rotting foods, it didn’t raise an alarm for her, and couldn’t tell where the smell was from, as the daughter was told of the news of her father’s death, she’d started crying.

And, Lee’s mother couldn’t set her mind up about how her husband had died, she’d told the officers, that she told her son last Thursday, “your father seemed to have died”, then it was, a couple of days ago, she’d still heard him breathing.  After she was told that her husband had died, she’d shown, a lack of emotional response.

The neighbors said, that the two siblings from the Lee’s household both worked hard, and, it was them, who’d taken care of their elderly father who’d had five strokes.  The police investigated and found, that the family wasn’t listed as high-risk, nor did the members apply for a restraining order.

The officers stated, that while they’d interrogated Lee, he’d shown distress over his father’s death, but, he seemed to be holding something back, and from the outside, they couldn’t tell whether or not the father died of starvation, illness, or, whether or not he was beaten to death by his own son, the cause of death will come out, after his autopsy, the D.A. already received an okay from the courts, to take Lee into custody.

And so, we may speculate what may have happened, maybe, the son was finally fed up over how his father still tortured his mother, and, he’d lost it, or that the father just died, because of the illnesses that he had, but, NEGLECT is what seemed to have happened in this case.

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Left You, for Good This Time

Left you, for good this time, and, I’m NEVER, looking BACK again, as in EVER!

Left you, for good this time, and I’d ended this god DAMN vicious cycle of constantly being ABUSED by you, I’d hardened up my heart here.

Left you, for good this time, I will NEVER go soft again, so, no matter how BIG those crocodile tears, rolling down your cheeks are, they won’t have an effect on me again.  Left you, for good this time, and, I’m better off for it too.

Left you, for good this time, I will NEVER go back, to that state of mind, OR state of being, of constantly living in FEAR, allowing you, to control me the way I’d done from before.

Left you, for good this time, and, there’s nothing you can say, OR do, to change my god DAMN mind, I’d done with you!  Left you, for good this time, and here, was how I’d done it: torn off that REARVIEW mirror, turn the radio up, full blast, to DROWN out that sound of goodbye, and, HIT the gas pedal, putting the pedal, TO the metal!

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Getting Introduced to the Adult World Too Soon…

This, is a story, of innocence, lost!

Getting introduced to the adult world too soon, because I was raised, by IMBECILES!  And, because those IMBICILES couldn’t even KEEP their fucked up marriage together, I was, forced to shoulder UP the responsibilities of doing that FOR them, and, for a very long time, ALL the way, into my 26th, I’d carried this heavy burden upon my shoulders, and, it all became, way, way, WAY back don’t know when, when his FUCKED up DEAD mother (and no, god will NOT rest HER soul!) told me, “you have the responsibilities to keep your parents together”, and, I was only eight or nine, or maybe, just ten, really can’t recall, and I’d lost my innocence.

Getting introduced to the adult world too soon, because you, FUCKING adults got brutally MURDERED by your own fucked up parents, and that, is why, you’d murdered us all, your young, and that, is still how this VICIOUS cycle still keeps on, rolling, rolling, rolling, like the Big O (from S. Silverstein???).

Getting introduced to the adult world too soon, I will NEVER allow that to happen to this DEAD daughter (b/c partially, she IS dead already!  And secondly, I’m a WAY better parent than my own ABUSIVE, ABUSIVE/NEGLECTFUL parents!) of mine, and, hell’s gonna FREEZE and thaw, infinite number of times, before I say my “I do” to that M***ER F***ING (“maxed out”???) piece of TRAILER PARK WHITE TRASH!

Getting introduced to the adult world too soon, because NONE of you parents had figured things out yet, and, we the children, are the one to blame, for ALL of your INCOMPETENCE?  And, by the way, you STUPID adults: NONE of us kids had BEGGED and PLEADED to be BORN to you, our parents, unless, you are MY Emily, but, none of you ARE, are ya?  Hell no!

Okay, the Queen is done, BITCHING, for now, that is…

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A Woman Wanted to Break Up, He’d Forced to Have a Threesome, Raped Her…Indicted

Yeah, call it a BAD breakup if you will, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

A man, Gang was displeased at how his young girlfriend from the high school years moved out of their love nest, was suspected of abetting a roommate, Yeou who had a crush on his girlfriend to take revenge on her, after they’d managed to get the teenage girl out, they’d beaten her up, stripped her, and tortured her, Yeou had backed away, Gang said to him, “Didn’t you dream of fucking my girlfriend for a long time?”, then, they’d had a three-way, and raped her, the D.A. indicted the two men based off of forced sexual acts.

The D.A.’s indictment pointed out, that Gang (age 19) and his roommate, Yeou (age 20) lived together, and, Gang’s girlfriend moved in with them, and was suspected to have disagreements on rent and money, and Yeou also had conflicts with Gang’s underage girlfriend too, the adolescent girl moved out, because she was angered.

Gang was displeased about it, on the noon hour of February 24th, he’d used the excuse of wanting to talk about breaking up with her, when the girlfriend returned to the rental place, he’d taken her cell phone, pulled out her SIM card, so she couldn’t’ call for help, then, Gang got violent toward his young girlfriend, strangled her neck, and beaten her.

Later on, Gang played the sick game of “Fast Answers”, no matter what the girl replied, he’d told her that she answered wrong, forced her to strip, threatened her, “After you’re completely nude, then, it’s SHOW TIME!”, when the victim begged hard without her clothes on, Gang and Yeou still forcibly pulled her into bed, and, acted out scenes from a porn movie with her.

And so, this, is why when you are breaking up, and your ex wanted to see you, it’s always SAFER, to have a friend to go with you, that way, this sort of SHIT won’t happen, and, this still just shows how you LOSERS treat women who don’t want you anymore.

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She Who Died Seemed to Have Been a Victim of Bullying, the Seven Suspects Were From the Same Village as She

Here’s some background information, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

Chiu who was mildly retarded was from a special condition family, she lives with her single father, and, both her parents, and her older siblings had mental and physical disabilities.

Chiu’s father had found his daughter not returned to home on the night when she was murdered, but, because of his mental disability, he didn’t call the police until yesterday; the school that Chiu goes to, on the day of the crime, had started calling up the father, asking about where his daughter was, and he’d told them, that “she was with her mother”, “She’d gone to stay with her godmother.”

Chiu had written, “I really don’t like getting mad, I hope all my friends can be happy every day”, on the fourth of this month, “help me through this hard time?”, “I’m really sad, depressed, I don’t know what to do, I hope that there’s someone close by to protect me, to accompany me………”, the police suspected that she’d been troubled by bullying and getting singled out by a group.

The person who’d counseled Chiu from before said, that she’d had the habits of stealing things, but, her nature is still good, and would head to the home to deliver the medications for her older sister by the week.  Before she died, Chiu had often hung out at a net café, the owner of the net café told, that Chiu hung out with a group of elementary and middle school aged kids, and would spend one to two hours at a time in the shop, the police suspected that, that, was how she’d gotten involved with Lin and other suspects.

The p9olice said, that the seven involved people are all from the same village, when they were called, they all appeared very calm, seemed to not have any remorse for causing the death of the middle school girl at all, and, toward the end, only a man named Gu started showing remorse and started crying, and told of the hole thing.

The two young children who were involved, Hsieh called the primary suspects, Lin and He as uncles, and the neighbor, Tseng, was her tag-along. Based off of understanding, Hsieh’s father is a repeated suspect in chopping down trees illegally, currently serving time in prison, her older brother is in juvenile detention, yesterday, her mother who’d accompanied her to give her statements left her early in the afternoon.  The school told, that the two children would often skip school for no reasons, and they didn’t understand what kinds of crowds they’re involved with, and that they’re going to work, to counsel the specific cases from here on out.

Lin and Huang called one another husband and wife, but, they’re not married, their daughter in her early teens goes to elementary school.  Yesterday, as the press asked Huang how she could be so cruel to someone who’d the same age as her own child, Lin started staring the interviewers down angrily.  When Lin was interviewed, he’d even claimed, that he was only taking Chiu (the victim) to the parks to hang, and claimed, “can you stop asking me these questions now?”

And so, this, is how violent they’re getting, and, it’s all because one person of the gang felt taken, and, the rest of the “followers” had gone, and MURDERED someone in such brutal manner, and, that, is how peer pressures, and the need to be accepted by a group works in children in the younger years.

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When the Child Wants to Go to School without Her Parents’ Company

The kid is declaring HER independence, the FIRST step, translated…

Q: Ming-Ming in the fifth grade no longer wanted her mom to pick her up and drop her off at school anymore…

Although there’s no problem with the safety in Taiwan, but, there would still be instances where children are kidnapped.  There was a construction site nearby, and, a ton of different people go in and out of the area, Mrs. Huang worries for her daughter, Ming-Ming’s safety as she goes out, so, even if Ming-Ming is already in the fifth grade, she’d still picked her up to and from school, as well as taking her daughter to the cram schools, to this date, the mother had never allowed Ming-Ming to fly solo.  But, recently, Ming-Ming started stating how she wanted to head out by herself, and, Mrs. Huang knew that one day, she will have to let her daughter fly solo, but, she’s confused, at when is the right time, for her to let go.

A Not About Independence, But, One Day, the Parents Must Let Go

The CEO of the Professional Development Center for Growth, the elementary school instructor, Lee, from Bei-Hsin Elementary School, pointed out, that now, the families are having less and less children, most of the families only had one child, and, the parents hovered over them, feared that there would be issues of traffic and safety, and the rates of parents picking the kids up to and from school are higher, compared to the past years.

The Distance Mattered

The observations of parents chauffeuring the kids to and from school, and, one would notice, that in the first and second grades, it’s very normal, but, by the time the kids get to third or fourth grades, they can already walk to school on their own.  But, all the families are different, there are kids who are in college, and still gets taken to and from school by the parents.

Lee stated, that sometimes the parents picking the kids up has nothing to do with whether or not the children ARE independent, instead, it has more to do with the distance between home and school.  She’d sated, that there are small schools in the city of Taipei, most are close to the homes of the students, it would take a short walk to get to school, the parents would naturally, feel securer, to let the kids go to school on their own; but, not in the city of Hsinbei, the schools are huge, and, far from the homes, and, it may take up to twenty minutes for the kids to get to the schools, the parents didn’t want the kids to tire out, and would rather ride their motorcycles, to chauffeur their kids to school, and, there are other cities and counties, with this sort of trend too.

Cherished the Time They Shared in the Car

The parenting expert, Mom Mee said, that from before when they lived in Tainan, there is a long distance between her home and the kids’ schools, she’d played classical music in her car on the way to school, so the kids could feel soothed, she’d utilized the time they shared in the car, to carry on in conversations with her young.  To her, as the children grow older, the time they have with each other became less and less, she’d cherished this time together, and, enjoyed it too, the kids also felt very happy, and, became expectant when she’d picked them up.

Mom Mee said, if as the parents picked up the kids, they’d started nagging about homework, or kept ranting, the children may become defiant toward that, and she’d suggested that as parents picked up the kids, they should communicate with their young.

Mom Mee said, some of the kids would want the parents to pick them up all the time, but, when the kids wanted to strike out on their own, the parents can let go slowly, to let the kids fly solo for a short while, to try it for a couple of days first, then, decide whether or not the kids are fitting, to go farther on their own.

Not Letting the Child be Alone on Her/His Own

Mom Mee and Ya-Jing Lee both pointed out, that when the kids entered into the middle school, they’d become insistent on going to school on their own, and not wanting the parents to pick them up anymore.  Mom Mee said, the children in the teenage years cared a lot about what their peers say about them, seeing how the other classmates could go to and from school on their own, but, the parents are still picking them up to and fro, the children would not like it.

When her child was in the fifth grade, the other kids of her class started asking her to walk to and from school together as a group, she’d also let go, but, every family IS different, and, letting go is reliant on the parents’ and the kids’ attitude, as well as the distance from the school to the homes.

One day, the parents WILL let go.  Lee said, that if you’re allowing your child to go to and from school on her/his own, do remember, to remind the children not to be alone, the parents can take the kids on the paths a couple of times, to understand the traffic conditions, and pick the routes, and, remind the kids to watch the traffic as they cross the roads, if someone is stalking the children, they can duck out in the shops close to the schools, if someone asks the child for directions, the child only needed to point the way, and not lead the stranger to where s/he wanted to head to.

This, is What You Can Do…Tell Your Worries to Your Children

Mrs. Huang drops off and picks up Ming-Ming to and from school, but, Ming-Ming said she wanted to go on her own, Mrs. Huang could use empathy, to explain her own worries to her daughter, because the roads near her house is under construction, she’s more worried about the traffic, so, that, is why she’ll be taking Ming-Ming to school, and, she can also emphasize to Ming-Ming, that if she heads out on her own, she must watch the roads.

Mrs. Huang, if she is to let Ming-Ming go to and from school on her own, she must watch for her own safety, as well as the traffic.

If Mrs. Huang wanted to let Ming-Ming go to school on her own, she could drop her off close to the school first, let her daughter walk the shorter way, then, after Ming-Ming learns to watch out for herself, then, let go.

And so, we have, worrisome parents, who are unwilling to let the child go, and, the child wanted to go, which signifies that she wanted her own independence, and the mother here, is having troubles, letting go, and, it is NOT about independence at all, it’s about the parents’ inabilities to let their kids go.

An Overly Active Child Became Calmer Because of Reading

The experiences of life, from someone, translated…

My son had always been hyperactive when he was younger, and would not head to bed, until, he’d drained himself of ALL his energies completely every single night, I, being his primary caretaker, often felt too tired to chase him around.

When my child was around two when he’d learned to talk, whenever I’d had the time, I’d sat him on my lap, held on to his fingers, picked up the picture books, and, as he’d pointed to each of the Chinese characters, I’d read it aloud to him, sometimes, when he was playing with his toys, I’d read to him too.  Even though, he didn’t seem like he was listening, but, his brain had become a sponge, and started soaking up the things I’d read to him already.

Once, I’d told my son, “Jun-Yi, go wash your hands.”  He’d replied, “Clean up the hands, so I can cook”, it was so shocking to me.  Ever since, the child who couldn’t recognize the characters can read the words aloud, while flipping through the picture books.

As my child was in his last year of kindergarten, I’d subscribed to the “Chinese Weekly”, and, my son slowly used the phonetic spellings to read, and after he’d read, he’d shared with me the stories, and the comics he’d thumbed across.  When he’d entered into the first grade, I’d changed the subscriptions to “Chinese Daily Papers for the Children”, my son could now, read, independently, with the phonetic spellings now.  In the second grade, he became taken with “Journey to the West”, and, modeled the Monkey King as if he WERE the Monkey King; in the third grade, he was taken with the Warring Nations, read a ton of the varied versions of the tale, but, he’d still read it for pure enjoyment, once, I’d asked him, if we could give the books he’d read away to someone else?  He’d firmly answered, “NO, I’m saving these books for my own kids.”

This overly active child, rather than reading the books for fun, still didn’t focus his mind on his homework assignments, and, in school, while he was sitting in class, his mind was somewhere else, in the stories he’d read already.  Acted up in class, wanted all the attention of others, he’d become the main characters of the stories he’d read, to the point that he was seemingly possessed by the stories, he was, the top problematic student of his class.  There was nothing else I can do, but to transfer him to another school, and start taking him to school daily, without his playmates, it’d given this child with difficulties concentrating a cleared learning environment.

My child was a changed kid in this brand new environment, everything started from zero.  He is now, the teacher’s little helper, the smart child in all of his classmates’ views, and, took up the role of the cleaning master and cultural education helper of his class, compared to the problematic student he was, it’s like he’d become, TWO different persons.

Now my child is in the higher grades of the elementary years, he still doesn’t have any afterschool program, every day after school as he’d come home, he’d done his homework, then, worked on his workbooks, he’d insisted on reading the papers still, and, I’d allowed the newspaper articles to turn into another way of education for him, and, we’d have discussions of what he’d read.  Although he’s only midrange in his class in the matter of grades, but, having the good habits of reading daily had helped him become a well-rounded student who knows a LOT outside of the textbooks, and, his character made up for his not doing well on his tests too.

And from this, you can still see how IMPORTANT reading is, it’d helped this kid who was disruptive, who was overactive calm down, and, it’d helped enriched his knowledge base, and, this mom started her child on the reading track, when he was just two years old, by reading the books to him.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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The Six-Year-Old Daughter Gave Her Mother Away, the DNA Showed, that She Wasn’t His Child at All

Words, out of mouths of babes, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

The young daughter of a man, Wu, often spoke of how she has another daddy, last year, Wu took his daughter to get her DNA checked out, and, the child was unrelated to him by blood; he’d recalled how eight to ten months before his daughter was born, his wife who was originally frigid and not sexually turned on at all had asked him to have sex with her multiple times, , it was, to cover up the fact, that she was already pregnant, he’d filed for a law suit.  His ex-wife, who had already agreed to divorce him claimed, that when she was on a business trip, she was knocked out, then raped, and that, was how she got knocked up.  The judge didn’t believe her, mandated that she must pay her ex-husband one million dollars N.T., the case can still be appealed.

Wu’s complaints pointed out, that a decade ago, he’d married, and right after his wife and he were wed, his wife would take several business trips to China, they slowly fell out of love, rarely consummated; a little over seven years ago, his wife gave birth to a daughter, as the child grows up, a lot of his friends and families pointed out, that the child does not look like him at all, and he’d even heard his daughter told that she “has another dad”.

When the child was six, she’d gone on a trip with his wife, after the child came home, she’d told her grandmother, that she had gone to her other dad’s house, that mom took showers, slept, and cooked there, everybody went to McDonald’s, the park, then, to the shopping strip, and that the other “dad” also bought her toys.

Back then, he was starting to get suspicious, at the start of last year, he’d taken his daughter to the hospital for a paternity test, and, the results proved, that she wasn’t his at all, he felt taken, for taking care of someone else’s child for so many years, as he’d grilled his wife, she’d denied having had an affair, he got furious, and filed for a divorce with the courts, and, after the case went to family court, the divorce was granted.

Wu pointed out, that ten to eight months before his daughter was born, his ex-wife had found him to have sex several times, clearly, it was, to cover up her own infidelity; as the case went up to the Taipei District Courts, the ex-wife denied having had an affair, claimed, that because she’d gone on business trips to China a lot back then, she’d needed to drink with the business associates, that she may have been date raped, that, was how she’d gotten pregnant.

The judge believed, that if someone was drugged or raped, the person would be likely to notify the police, or tell it to someone she trusted, a friend, or members of one’s own family, Wu’s ex-wife couldn’t provide witnesses or any evidences, and so, the judge did not take her words for it, believed, that her daughter was conceived from her affair.

And so, that still just shows, that infidelities are NOT a specialty of men, that women can cheat too.

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