A-M-E-N, to that, on how the “job” of a mom is, taken for granted, too often in the world today, translated…
What full-time mothers hated hearing is, “You don’t work, do you?”, everybody knows it too, that the job description of “mom” is, multifaceted, numerous tasks, long work hours; and on Mother’s Day, everybody wanted to say, “Mom, you’d, worked, too hard!”, but mostly, people believed, that “mom” is, nothing, more than a role, not a job.
My neighbor’s seven-year-old daughter came over to play, asked me, “Aunty, what’s your job?”, I’d replied, “my job is mom”. She’d stated, “That’s not a job!”, then I’d, asked her, “Why isn’t it? I’d done some many things during a day!”, she’d, insisted, “but you don’t make any money, my mom works, and made so much money! She’s working overtime today!”
Yeah, if I worked as a nanny, in the schools, or the afternoon programs to teach the students, cooked the foods at restaurants, driving a cab to take clients to and from, to the employers’ homes to clean their houses, I would, totally, earn a wage, even, the bonuses, the raises around the holidays, the breaks the days off, and the worker’s insurances too. But, in my own home, I’d done, just that, no money to be earned, no days off, and I’d often needed, the overtime hours too. As my child fell ill, I’d needed to stay by his side watch over him day and night; if I caught what my child had, or maybe, I fell ill, or felt tired, I can’t have a day off, nobody’s there, to look after me. Once I’d stayed with my child at the hospitals, and in a few days, my child recovered, but I’d, started having a fever. As the doctors came to make the rounds, I’d begged, “I feel achy all over, I can’t take one step, can’t leave my child here and got get treated, can you give me a tab that’ll, help reduce my fever please!”
the job of a housewife…
If I don’t get paid, then, I’m not, working? What is the definition of, “work”? I’d looked it up in the dictionary, “Work”: occupation, synonym: labor. And the definition of “occupation” is: the post or work that an individual has. Here, it’d not mentioned anything about wages. In Wikipedia, the definition of “Work” is: occupation; while the definition of “Occupation” is: a day-to-day routine of labor, with the goals of getting paid for your labor. “Getting paid for labor” meant, a wage, so, Wikipedia believed, that the purpose of work, is, getting that pay, this is also, the majority’s explanation of what “work” entailed. Then, in the ancient times, before the individuals became masters, what would the work of the apprenticeships be? And, there’s, the same character in the world, volunteer, and volunteers normally, don’t get, paid either, but it clearly, constitutes as a form of work too, based off of the meanings of the characters taken apart, so, why is it, that staying at home, taking care the children, NOT considered, “work”? Based off of what I’d already, described, everything I do at home, are all the work deemed as work by societal definition, and, every single task combined, makes into, a whole “job”! “Homemaking is NOT a job”, “Full-time mothers aren’t working!”, this sort of deeply rooted belief, when will it get, amend3ed? It’s a wonder, that a lot of moms want to, find alternative work posts, so they don’t get misinterpreted as, “leeches”!
Before my neighbor’s young daughter left my home, I’d told her, “Aunty’s job is being a mom, I’m also, a temporary nanny. Next time if your mom can’t watch over it, send you over to my house, do tell her, aunty will be charge a hundred dollars an hour.”, that young girl, she’d made a sound with her tongue, then, walked out the door, she’s still fazed at how aunty doesn’t go out to work to make a pay, to play with children at home, and her too. The next time, if I ask for pay from her “mom with work”, hopefully, she can gain a little more understanding of how, “aunty also works!”
And that is, precisely, how and why these homemakers get taken for granted, because we’re NOT working out of our homes, dressed up in those suits, making a pay check with the dollar amounts, but homemakers ARE working, they’re working 24/7, 365 or 366 days PER year, and, we’re NOT allowed to have any sick days, vacation times, and we’re not making enough for the families in these, dollars and cents? You’ve got to be, shitting me here, and this is the LACK of respect, that we women get, for staying at home, and working as a HOUSEWIFE, raising up our young, cleaning up the houses, keeping the living environment, clean and tidy, not to mention, getting the groceries, sometimes, we also act as, the makeshift plumber, electrician too! So show some RESPECT already, huh???