If It’s His Ex-Girlfriend, Then, Why Must He Marry Her?

Troubled???  A Q&A, translated…

Q: Ms. C wrote…

Had allowed love to get to her head, couldn’t see the truth, Ms. C sent me a letter, she said, “the boyfriend doesn’t love ‘his current girlfriend’ (she’d especially labeled her as an ex-girlfriend); but his family forced him to marry her, because she’d lived with the family for over twelve years now, and, he must shoulder the responsibilities toward her.  They’d even told him, if after they’d married, and realized, that they still couldn’t get along, then, they can file for divorce, but, he just, can’t abandon her now.  If he doesn’t marry that ex of his, then, the boyfriend’s family threatened to cut him off, and wouldn’t allow him back into their household.”

C said, that her boyfriend is in love with another girl—it’s Ms. C.  she said, that her boyfriend and her are not only really much in love with one another, she’d kept waiting for him, to plan out their lives together.

And now, they’re “in waiting”, as the issues with the ex-girlfriend just couldn’t get resolved.  She wanted to know how she can resolve the stresses of her boyfriend’s family toward them, would his family really force them to split up?

My Advice

From Ms. C’s letter, I can understand, some unspoken truths, which was: her boyfriend was originally with his ex, or maybe, he’d gotten tired about being with her (or maybe, it’s normal), the boyfriend cheated with C, and, thought about, that he’d had to actually get married to C.

Whether it be a new love, or an old flame, or maybe, he’s just stalling, he is irresponsible, without the strengths, stamina, doesn’t want to be the bad guy who brings up the break up, so, he’d used his own family as a shield, and blamed it on them, to stall for awhile, then, he will used a more rash reason that’s made up by himself, “to break his own heart” and break up with C.  C, who is either too young, too naïve, or blinded by love, if she doesn’t wake up soon, maybe, she’d gobbled all his lies right up, and, became a “spare”, who’s waiting for her boyfriend to marry his girlfriend, until they’re divorced.

Simply stated, after the boyfriend had cheated and had his fun, he will still end up, marrying his “ex-girlfriend”, so, DON’T trust him!

And this, is where the trouble is, the woman is still too infatuated with the man, and she will gobble up ALL those LIES he’d sold her on, and, chances are, that she probably will STAY DORMANT, until it’s WAY too late, until the “ex-girlfriend” who’d become her “boyfriend’s” WIFE, and found out about them, and SUED, and, this woman still doesn’t HAVE a clue, because she’s way too BLINDED by L-O-V-E!

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