Been Married for Five Years, But Still Had Yet to Register at the Land Offices, on Marriage

The way here is, even IF you’d gone through the whole thing, IF you didn’t get registered at the land offices, you’re still, NOT married, translated…

The age-old statement of, “Marriage is the burial site of love”, after the younger, years, take away the sweetened, outer shells of marriage, what, kind of attraction is in, that piece of marriage certificate?  The registrations of marriage may have solved the problem of bigamy, but, it’d also brought the onset of “falsified marriages” too.

My coworker, Wen had been married for five years now, the more correct way of stating it, is that all of us got invited to her ceremony five years ago, but, she just didn’t quite find the time to go to the land offices to register, and, she’d never taken a leave of absence for her honeymoon.  The housing prices are hiking up, and so, she’d delayed her plans for buying a house indefinitely; getting pregnant, having a child, is simply, too troubling, and, she’d looked upon it, instead of working hard at it.  When we’d asked her how married life was, she’d always, not told us in clear details.

After she wed, Wen’s husband worked late, at first, she’d once asked him to come home early, so they could work on their marriage together, maybe, for a home cooked meal, or, heading out to the food shop at the entry of their alley to dine, take a long walk home, catch up on one another’s day.  But the husband always comes home tired, and, the last bit of energy he had, was spent on taking a shower, and hitting the sack.  Every word of how are you from Wen became like torture to him, slowly, they’d returned BACK to their ways of life from before they were wed, two single roommates, under the same roof.

A few years back, the coworkers were making fun, if they didn’t register for their marriage, they not only didn’t need to file their taxes jointly, they’d not needed to file for divorce, and, ladies without the names in the “spouse” column are more attractive, besides, the elders of the couple believed that they were already wed, they wouldn’t ask them when the date is, nor does she need to hear the threats of how a woman’s youth is gone by quickly.  But, as the years flew by, we’d all started, consoling Wen, to get registered for her marriage.

Recently, Wen’s husband had given her an ultimatum for the registration of their marriage, but, Wen kept dodging the subject, the honeymoon wasn’t to her liking, they both worked late, until neither one of them was in the mood anymore, there’s not enough pros for the marriage, and too many cons, all the problems that were there, at the time of his proposal to her, were now, all taken back out, and reexamined, and, these five years became like a trial marriage, putting ALL the cons out on the tables, and, to walk into the local land offices, to finalize the process, became even harder for them.  If marriage is a marathon, these five years of false marriage, are they included, in the process?

Originally, Wen’s husband who was just too lazy to go through the procedures of registering for marriage, to take the days off for the honeymoon, is now, panicky, and would take her out to dine on her birthday, sent roses to the office, and chauffeurs her to and from work, in the midst of his own busy schedules.  If he’d only know, that you must ring twice, to propose, then, why did he skip a step, causing this trouble for himself right now?

So, you’re married, but not registered yet, so, you’re NOT, technically, married, NOT by the views of the law, and, this couple just kept putting things off, longer, longer, longer, AND longer, until they both got spent, and, neither one of them wanted to go through the procedurals, and, their marriage is still NOT recognized, in the eyes of the LAW!!!