This can go either way still…the first “segment”…
Because she didn’t have a good mother, she’d sworn, that she’ll NEVER be like her own mother, how she was mistreated by her, she’d made up her mind, on not to do the same to her own child. Because she didn’t have a good mother, and she longed for a good mother, she’d worked hard, to become, the mother she’d always wanted to have, but never had the chance of having.
Now, here’s how the same case scenario can develop…
Because she didn’t have a good mother, she didn’t have a good role model, when she’d become a mother too. She’d done what her own mother did to her, to her own offspring. Her mother abandoned her, and, she was so very young, and yet, she was still hurt by her mother’s bad behaviors.
Because she didn’t have a good mother, she had NO way of knowing how to become a good mother to her own offspring too, and so, she had passed on the abuse she’d received, subconsciously, down, to her own children.
Because she didn’t have a good mother, she didn’t know HOW to become one, she merely, treated her offspring, HOW she’d been treated, and now, her children, are feeling, exactly like she had, as she was younger.
So, the choice is still YOURS: will you, let the ways you were mistreated by your parents become the exact same way you’d treated your own offspring, or, will you, notice this pattern of bad behaviors, and make a change, choice is still yours, you DO realize it, don’t you???