From the “lips” of Joan Erikson, the late wife of E. Erikson, the psychosocial theorist???
“Don’t, for the sake of appeasing to others, to negate the self, otherwise, you’d only be losing your sense of the self”.
And now, take a look around yourselves, and at yourselves too, how many of YOU are people-pleasers, who ended up, throwing YOUR own values away, to comply with the “wishes” and “demands” of the mass majority? And, what DID you get out of it in the end? Did more people like you better? Or, do they just go on, about the rest of their lives, as if, you didn’t do ANYTHING? So, what, DID you gain, from going along with the “mass majority”? Absolutely N-O-T-H-I-N-G, and, what’s WORSE, is that you’d lost YOURSELVES, and so, the cost still beats OUT the gain, doesn’t it?