The Sudden Onset of the Empty Nest

The “inner workings” of a housewife, translated…

I’m an ordinary housewife, in the past, the focus of my life had been on my three babies, but since last summer when my youngest daughter became a foreign exchange student to the Eastern coast of the United States, and at the start of the year, my son went on a business trip to western U.S., and my eldest daughter took the government exams and started working away from where I lived, I’d gotten a lot of spare time on my hands.

Without the three noisy sparrows fighting now, it seemed, that the quality of my life is on the decline.  And now, on the dinner tables, it’s just me, and my retired husband, staring at each other in the silence.  I originally thought, that my children had gone off to college close to home, that when they’d just entered into the working world, they can find work closer to home too, I didn’t expect my empty nest to hit me so suddenly.

At first, the two of us expected and expected, waiting for the time when our kids had agreed upon as the time to webcam with us.  I felt, that my life has no meaning, that it was no fun, and I feel that sense of loss.

But gladly for my husband’s encouragements, he’d taken me out hiking a lot, being closer to nature, and we’d gone to the temples at the places we’d arrived to to ask for blessings and offer the incenses, hoping that the gods will look after our young.

And, my neighbor was kind and generous enough, to teach me quilting, along with beads too.  I’d started from the basics, threading of a needle.  And every time when I’d shown off a finished piece to my children, their look of awe had given me a TON of zest, and I’d found my motivation slowly from all the activities I’m now involved in; and I’d played games such as Sudoku, to help myself in not aging as fast too.

Slowly, I’m no longer stressed out, I look forward to a brand new tomorrow every single day.  We are the owners of our own lives, and, any kind of a change can mean a brand new beginning, don’t keep yourselves tied up.  I believe, that NOT only the younger generations, we, the elders, can also have a colorful life too.

And so, this woman filled up her empty nest with a TON of hobbies, and that, is the right way to do it, after all, your lives had circled around the kids, the family, and now, the kids are all grown, and you start to feel that you’re not needed, and thus, you will be somewhat depressed, but, if you’d kept up with hobbies, then, those things you’d kept up with can help occupy your mind and your time too.

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