A story on marriage, translated…
“The real kind of love is when you still could love, you cherish it, and when it’s time to cherish, you start to love”, this line had struck a chord with me.
This would be my thirtieth wedding anniversary , and, my husband and I had NEVER had a fight, only constructive dialogues, because we knew, “it’s hard to build up, but it’s easy to destroy”.
My son had once said, with an exaggeration, “Your record can be sent to the Palace Museum to be put on tour now!”, examining this not short marriage, “Cherishing what we loved” was the truths we hold dear, and it was also the first rule of making my marriage work.
I’m a working woman who’s not good with money, I’d twice forgotten to take my ATM card out of the machines after I’d made my withdrawals, and both times, it was the banks that called me up to let me know, and since then, I’d lost my right to my own ATM cards. But, I would NOT feel bad about NOT having enough money in my wallets, because my husband would refill it for me, and, he’d always managed to keep it at $5,000N.T. each and every time. And I’d always have enough to spend, so, it did NOT cause inconvenience to me at all.
My mother-in-law’s house required that my husband pay a huge lump sum for living, ever since the start of our marriage, I’d kept the rule of “not asking, not bothering about it”, it’d allowed me to have two MORE important “wings” in this marriage: the respect and the trust, this, was my second key to making MY marriage run more smoothly.
Looking BACK at our thirty years of marriage, I’d cherished, and kept the mind of NOT nickeling and diming, to NOT fight, to guard this hard-to-come-by love. Even thought, the process wasn’t always smooth, but I’m willing to give for love. I’d often told myself, “everything in this life is made possible by the last, and in this life, we were together, we must cherish it, and we should NOT just BE passersby in each other’s life. We’d often told each other, “This life time we were lucky enough to become best of friends, and we must cherish it!”
And, it IS with this sort of a gratitude that they hold toward each other that’s made their love even stronger, and that just shows you, that give and take, communication, are keys to a good marriage, oh, and NOT keeping score too!!!